Is romance part of dating? What is romance anyway? Sure romance to some may mean flowers, chocolates, surprise resort getaways or show tickets, but I think that it is something else entirely. These things are nice but only represent a materialistic version of romance (just look at the marketing blitz that happens when Valentine's Day approaches).
To me, romance means being comfortable enough with your girl to open yourself up and show your softer, more vulnerable side. In Western culture (although this is changing), we are taught as men not to show too much emotion and to be strong, not to cry etc. But many women find that the ability of a man to be able to show this softer side is a definite attractor.
In general, what you want to do is use romance to get her even more attracted to you. One night, instead of going to a restaurant, stay in and cook her favorite meal. This shows that you (a) are able to properly feed yourself and her and (b) shows that you actually listen to her when she talks about herself.
The point here is that small things done on a consistent and varying basis, will over time, have a more profound effect than if you try to do big things all the time. I can tell you this works from experience. Sometimes, the best way to get the reaction I want is not by flowers but by cleaning the house. That does not sound very romantic does it? But what you're trying to do is show her you care enough to do things she might not expect. By doing this, you increase the mystery surrounding you and will have her thinking "what's next?"
When you do the flowers and chocolates thing, do it very infrequently. That way, when you use it, it is always a surprise.
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